Live for a few days in the meditation,
“I am immersed in the flame-
The flame of time,
The flame of love,
The flame of life.
The universal fire flows through me.
It took me almost two and a half years of regular practice before I even attempted sitting in meditation on my own. Even with my eyes closed and no mirrors, and although I have been celibate for a while now, I know I look nothing like the picture of the monk meditating on the mountaintop. And I sure as hell don’t feel like it most of the time.
Every meditation is different. Some days I am on this cloud of euphoria, others I would be in tears, then are the days when conversations go on with the 50 people living in my head, or worse still, conversations with people in my life, played in BluRay on the canvas of my brain. Other days reining myself in is akin to trying to tame a dragon.
There are days when there is this dance going on inside me and it reaches a climatic point of ecstasy, followed by a long exhale and total bliss. An internal orgasm, where the universe inside me is fucked into a state of euphoria.
Then there are days where the thoughts just pass by like clouds and my attention is centered on the sensations over and under my skin and the steady beating of my heart.
And occasionally, I fall asleep.
Because no two times are the same and absolute stillness and focus almost an impossibility, I though that I was meditating wrong.
You can have a million meditation guides but truthfully, nobody has the roadmap to what goes on inside you.
Then last weekend I spent some time with meditation guru, Dr. Lorin Roche http://www.lorinroche.com/. With Lorin’s playfulness and sense of mischief, we explored the teachings of the Vajnana Bhairava Tantra. Lorin’s approach to meditation makes you feel like there is no need to become a poster, that meditation, like yoga is something completely personal and that you are free to explore what works for you. You welcome every part of you into the seat of your meditation, even the ones that you might not be overly fond of. It is a place where you find love for yourself and perhaps even send love to others. He made me feel like I had not been failing the meditation exam after all. There was so much acceptance and security that for a while, I even forgot myself and danced with the words of the texts.
And there’s that word – Bhairava, meaning “terrible.”. It is that place where you want to go forward but you are petrified. I realised that a lot of times, this is exactly how I feel when I’m in yoga class – being upside down was it for me for a long time, and then meditation.
Not everyone is but I am – Scared.
But it’s perfectly fine to be.
Step into that fire wholeheartedly,
Starting with the big toe,
Then surrendering everywhere.
Only the not-self,
Which doesn’t exist anyway,
And I am not doing it wrong after all.
Meditation is not the celibate monk on the mountaintop.
Shit comes up in meditation because we have a life. The monk on the mountaintop has renounced all their connections. We have not and in meditation is where we can deal with the emotional drama, separate the stories from the reality. Like a massage where the therapist needs to dig in to the tissue to release it, so meditation sometimes allows us space to dig into our emotional tissue in order to release it.
It is a limitless exploration of our universe which includes all of us – our thoughts, bodies, emotions, the parts we like, and the parts we might not. Ever pulsating. Ever changing. A vortex of instances that are occuring. Atoms and particles forever moving. Light and dark, eternally dancing. Sometimes slow and gentle, sometimes wild and free.
It can be utter stillness or an internal pulsation, or even a dance party under our skin.
Just like there is more than one path to life, there is more than one path to meditation.
It is an exploration, looking inside with wonder and finding our own journey to ecstasy.
It is the burning away of the not-self.
For me, meditation is sometimes like stepping on a cloud and sometimes stepping into a flame. I never know what might come up. It is a continual exploration. I now go into this state of terror with the question, “what have you got for me today?”
Attend to this continually,
And awaken into tranquillity.
Your essence is renewed in the flame,
For the flame knows itself as flame
Since the first heartbeat of creation.
Verses from the Radiance Sutras, Verse 29.